Feeling insecure happens, no matter how comfortable with yourself you may be. While not everyone has severely low self esteem; all of us experience low self confidence from time to time.
No matter the severity you suffer from, it’s always important to know how to bounce back from negative experiences or thoughts and move on with your life.
One of the most important steps when trying to get rid of low self confidence is to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, everyone endures hardships but it is how you learn from them that makes all the difference in the world.
If you did something you regret, thinking about it every day for the rest of your life is just going to hinder your personal growth. Thinking about what you’ve done and learning from it is one thing but causing it to bring you down is a whole other thing.
Typically, people with low self confidence look around and feel that everyone else has it better than them. Looking around and being jealous of people who have more money, better cars, and better jobs just brings you down.
Take a moment to be thankful for what you have and how far you’ve come. Being thankful for the little things not only allows you to live a much happier life but you are going to feel more confident in yourself. There is always someone who has a harder life than you.
Think of what it must be like for them and it will usually bring you out of one of those self-loathing moods.
Enjoy Your Accomplishments
When you accomplish something, no matter how small; you should take a moment to think about all the hard work and effort you put in. People with low self esteem tend to only see the negative in what they did and how they could have done better. Take a moment to think about everything you did right.
Dealing With Rejection
Rejection happens and no matter how confident a person is; it hurts. No one wants to lose a friend or have someone break up with them but everyone has their own preferences and not all relationships can last forever.
The same goes with getting a job. Just because you didn’t get a job doesn’t make you a terrible person, it just means you didn’t stand out as much as someone else. Rejection is a learning experience and should be taken seriously but not as if it’s the end of the world.
Lean On Yourself
While many people with low self confidence tend to lean on others to make them feel good enough or to bring them up when they are feeling down; leaning on yourself is best. Once you are happy with yourself, and learn to love yourself, it’s much easier for people to love you as well.
Not everyone can be there for you 24/7 and it’s unfair for you to get upset with them if they can’t. Imagine if someone were to turn the tables and put that kind of pressure on you; while you would try your best to help, it would be hard to deal with it all of the time on top of your own personal problems.
You Are Normal
Many people who have low self confidence don’t think they’re normal. What is normal really though? Being ‘normal’ would mean being like everyone else, and wouldn’t that just make the world boring? Everything about you is unique and makes you who you are.
If someone doesn’t like you for who you are then you don’t need them in your life; someone like that is just going to add negativity to your life.
If you are having a hard time and want to get rid of low self confidence, you may want to talk to your doctor or start going to support groups in your area.
Personality disorders or depression are examples of low self confidence that may require medication or further help. Do not feel ashamed asking for help because you are giving yourself a better chance at living a happier and healthier life; which everyone deserves.